Gender issues in The Sufi
Why didn't Inayat Khan use gender-inclusive language?
Inayat Khan was using the formal English of the day, in which it was considered proper to use use "he" as a gender-neutral pronoun, and to use "man" to indicate all of mankind in general.
Inayat Khan held women in the highest esteem. Most of his students were women, and of those students to whom he granted the highest level of initiation, all of them were women.
In his personal notebooks, Inayat Khan wrote lines such as the following:
And in his autobiography he wrote:
There is no line of work or study which woman in the West does not undertake and does not accomplish as well as man. Even in social and political activities, in religion, in spiritual ideas, she indeed excels man. The charitable organizations existing in different parts of the West, are mostly supported by the women, and I see as clear as daylight that the hour is coming when woman will lead humanity to a higher evolution.
Clearly, Inayat Khan had high respect for women.
No, the majority of Inayat Khan's students were women, so if his presentation to his audience was biased toward any specific gender, it would have been in favor of the women in his audience.
That was the proper formal usage of his time. At that time, it was customary and proper to use terms such as "he" and "man" as being non-gender-specific.
Even today, the English dictionaries define "he" as "anyone (without reference to sex) " and define "man" as "a member of the species Homo sapiens or all the members of this species collectively, without regard to sex".
Inayat Khan used the terms that were formally proper in his time, and he surely meant no disrespect for any person.
The Sufi path is one of rising rise above the concerns of the limited self, and in doing so, rising above words of limitation and separation such as I, me, mine, he and she in order to arrive at the goal of conscious union with All, progressing from the individual to the universal. To make progress, one must diligently strive to keep one's eyes on the highest of goals, and overlook (look beyond) anything which seems to separate us from the unity of our divine spiritual inheritance, the divine spark within.
As an example of gender issues, here is a quote from Inayat Khan which also offers a very powerful lesson about being open to learn:
If the words such as man, he and him in this lesson are narrowly interpreted as merely describing a person of male gender, then the meaning of this great lesson is missed. When Inayat Khan uses words such as man, he and him in these teachings, he is clearly referring to mankind, the human being in general.
In this simple example, the earnest student may encounter three separate issues:
For some readers, words involving gender may present a difficult and emotionally charged issue. Indeed, some have even proposed that, rather than striving to understand what the teacher means, the words of the teacher should be changed. However, changing the teacher's words may not be the best solution... it may be much more useful to learn to rise above the difficulty on the wings of tolerance and understanding.
Communication can be a challenging art, often plagued by misunderstanding, personal preferences and emotional issues. In many cases, the root of the difficulty is that each person has their own personal understanding of what a specific word means. Therefore, in order to understand what another person means when using a certain word, we must strive to understand what that word means to the other person. That is, if one does not share the other person's understanding of how a word is being used, then each person will have a different view of what has been said; a situation which often results in disharmony and misunderstanding.
For example, Inayat Khan said:
The use of the word scope may at first seem odd or puzzling, but when we know that Inayat often used the word scope to describe available room, space, openness, emptiness, breadth or opportunity to function, then the meaning of the phrase becomes clear.
In order to truly learn to understand the message of a great teacher such as Inayat Khan, we must strive to be open, empty and willing to learn what the teacher means. That is, the message of a great teacher is far beyond mere words. The words are not the message; the words only point toward the inner depths of understanding. But, if one is unduly distracted by one's own preferences, one's own ego, or one's own emotional issues related to the words, then the great wisdom of the teacher's message may be missed. The Sufi strives for harmony, tolerance and understanding in every situation.
The basic steps in resolving our conditioned reactions are: first, becoming aware of the reaction, secondly, deeply and calmly examining the causes of the reaction, and finally, rising above the reaction on the wings of love. Even the most difficult situation becomes tolerable when our hearts are filled with love rather than resistance. Each of us has our own sensitivities, our own wounds, yet it is through situations such as this that we discover an opportunity to trade our old wounds for newfound wisdom.
As a starting point, it may be useful to experiment with substituting a more suitable word whenever a gender distraction arises. For example, substituting she for he, or, in the case of references to God, substituting a gender neutral term such as The One for he. Then, as one becomes less annoyed by what was once so objectionable, one begins to naturally rise above the reaction.
Another useful technique may be to read the troublesome passage twice; once for the head, and once for the heart. That is, on the first reading, allow the mind to raise its objections, and then on the second reading, allow the intended message to flow freely into the heart. I must admit that, even as a male student of these teachings, the gender-related terms often cause me to need to re-read the passage several times until the true meaning, devoid of gender, really sinks in. Yet, rather than being an obstacle, such re-reading often helps to deepen and clarify the message.
Perhaps, if Inayat Khan were alive today, he might use different words to avoid any gender-related issues. But, these are the words that he used, and we now have an opportunity to learn to enjoy and appreciate the message that Inayat has given to us, regardless of our own preferences.
Beyond the clutter of words there is a message, and if we are open enough, tolerant enough, understanding enough, we will be able to discover and enjoy the Message beyond the message.
In speaking about the change of viewpoint which occurs at a certain stage of spiritual evolution, Inayat Khan said:
The role of a spiritual teacher such as Inayat Khan is to help us learn the lessons of life, the lessons of how to be compassionate, loving, understanding human beings who see the wonders of love, harmony and beauty in all of creation, empowered, enlivened and guided by the divine spark within. In order to do this, we must rise above our own personal preferences, rise above our own ego and rise above the differences that divide us. Only then will we be able to rediscover and enjoy the common ground, the common heritage, the inner unity that we all share in this wondrous journey of life.
When viewed in this light, the challenge of overcoming one's own personal preferences and personal opinions offers a wonderful opportunity to learn to control one's own ego and one's own emotions, thereby rising above such limitations. The task may seem daunting, or even unwelcome, but the results will be well worth the effort. Thus, what may at first have seemed to be a problem, blooms and flowers into a rich and rewarding opportunity.
Beyond the words, there is a message... and it is really the message that matters. Words come and go, but the message lives on.