There is a belief which comes from ancient times, and
that is the belief in a twin soul. Some people wait for
this phenomenon and search for it; and sometimes this belief
is the cause of much unhappiness during the greater part
of their lives because they have not yet found their twin
soul. What is a twin soul? One might say that a proper answer
is the twin soul of a question: every person is a question
and every person is an answer. And when two people meet
and one of them is a question and the other is the answer
to that question then they are twin souls. But unfortunately
what very often happens is that either two questions meet
or two answers.
Twin souls can belong to three distinct spheres: to the
angelic sphere, to the sphere of the jinns, and to the sphere
of the earth. Two people may have inherited from their childhood,
or brought with them from the moment of their birth, qualities
that fit one another. They need not be of opposite sex.
They can be personalities of the same sex. They can be friends
or partners in life. It does not matter. It is two souls.
One answers the other's question, as every person is a question
and at the same time an answer. These two souls who have
brought with them qualities which already fit one another,
become friends the moment they meet, and in coming together
they find a satisfaction they have never experienced before,
because all their life there has been a question and suddenly
it is answered. This may come about early or late in life,
but there comes a time in the life of most souls when they
meet someone who is the answer to their soul's question.
Souls need not know what question they are, and naturally
they do not know it, but they are a question all the same.
Neither do they know what the answer is, but when it comes
they know that it fits, they know that it is satisfying,
and unconsciously they know that it is the answer to their
question. It may be that the two were friends before they
came on earth or, as many call it, in a past incarnation,
but there is no doubt that a contact had been established
before their coming to earth, and that is why the moment
they meet they think that they have known each other for
many, many years.
Very often people do not realize it when they meet their
twin soul, and very often they know it and yet do not feel
sure. There were two sisters who were so devoted to each
other that it seemed that there was one world made for these
two sisters and another quite apart from it. They used to
call one another, 'my twin soul.' There have been men who
have worked together throughout their lives, who have striven
and suffered and planned together, and when one of them
passed away the other followed him. They were twin souls.
One might wonder whether it is not an error of the soul
to be born like this, because the conditions are often so
unfavorable for twin souls; but whether circumstances are
favorable or unfavorable, their satisfaction lies with one
another and for one another if they are twin souls, and,
therefore, it is not an error. It is never an error for
a person to have been born on earth, to have to struggle
all his life in order to gain the results that he wanted.
It is natural.
There is a well-known story in India about a young Brahmin
who, after his marriage went on a pilgrimage, while his
wife stayed at home. And after two or three months some
mischievous man brought her the news that her husband had
died. He wanted to create a commotion in the house and see
how Brahmins mourn. But the moment this young bride heard
of her husband's death she passed away herself. And after
six months the young man came home from his pilgrimage and
heard what had happened, that on hearing the news of his
death his wife had died. No one saw a tear or heard a cry.
He only closed his lips and from that moment he never spoke
to anyone, he never saw anyone. It was as if he had drunk
the news like a bowl of poison. People were anxious about
him and kept guard over him. But one day he escaped and
went to the place where his wife had been cremated and where
ever since a fire used to glow every night. Many people
had seen this. He went closer to this fire, and before those
who had followed him could reach him the fire leaped up
and made three turns around him, and he fell down dead.
Not only in man, but even among animals and birds one
can see this tendency. A man who was very fond of shooting
told the story that once he shot a bird, and before he could
reach it to pick it up another bird came down from the tree
to see if it was really dead. It moved it with its beak,
and when it found that its mate was dead it fell dead, too.
It need not only be human beings that find their twin soul;
even the animals and the birds, even the lower creatures
can find it – and much sooner than human beings, because
human beings are so absorbed in themselves.
Then there are twin souls of another kind which belong
to the earth, the world, the human sphere. The nature of
these twin souls is different. They must develop to become
twin souls. And what develops them is the situation in life
that brings them together. They are drawn to each other
by providence, and circumstances cause them to meet. As
they develop they become twin souls, just as in one shell
one can sometimes find two almonds. The shell has been the
situation, the circumstances, the mold which has brought
them together in order to go through life tolerantly. There
is a lesson to be learned from this: that each of those
two almond kernels has a curve, some part of it is removed,
is gone, in order to let the other grow. If the two almonds
had pushed one another they would never have grown. It was
done by reciprocity. It was as if they said, 'I will let
you grow,' 'I will let you grow, too,' 'Some part of my
being will be held in check. We shall grow as one almond.'
But when that conception is not there, then there is no
chance of growing together; that is the lesson which mankind
has to learn.
The almonds can grow together, but souls cannot grow
like that, for each soul has its Nafs, its ego, and
each soul wants to push itself forward. It does not mean
that man has no love, but that man puts his ego before love;
that is the general feeling. One may not realize it, but
it is so; and that is why those who are meant to become
twin souls are often denied that privilege only because
they will not give in to one another. What is friendship?
Friendship is sacrifice. What is love? Love is regard for
the pleasure and displeasure of the beloved; if that is
not there then one does not grow. No one can be selfish
and at the same time loving. These two things cannot go
together. Either one becomes selfish or one becomes loving.
And in order to become loving one must erase selfishness,
while in order to become selfish one must erase love. For
love will not allow the self to grow. Love is the enemy
of the self, and the self is the enemy of love.
The third kind of twin souls are those of the angelic
spheres. The twin souls of the angelic spheres are united
in one person. He himself is his twin soul: himself one
and his soul the other. It is this soul which develops quickly,
for this soul contains his answer within himself.
Those who, not understanding the secret of twin souls,
remain dissatisfied in life do not understand that either
their twin soul is there, and that if it is there providence
must bring them together one day; or that they should develop
within themselves the quality of the twin soul in order
that one day they may perfect themselves in it; or that
they should find in their own soul the answer to their life's
question. It is the knowledge of one of these three qualities
of twin souls that enables a person to realize in his life
the meaning of this idea. Each soul has one of these three
Souls who have grown to be twin souls on earth remain
so in heaven, for life on earth continues in heaven. The
Prophet has said that death is a bridge which unites friend
with friend. Can we have a twin soul in each sphere? We
can have a twin soul every day; it depends on how much we
want it; but if we choose to have another twin soul in another
sphere we can change them every day. It is either a continual
development from the beginning to the end, from the angelic
sphere to the earthly sphere, and that brings about the
perfect union; or a new union is created and accomplished
and fulfilled for eternity, for the hereafter; or the soul
has found within itself the twin soul, and that is God,
that is perfection.
Furthermore, there are three aspects, three principles
in life: Jalal, Jamal, and Kamal. Jalal is
power, Jamal is beauty, and Kamal is perfection. The twin
souls of the jinn sphere are Jamal because they respond
to one another and Jamal is responsive. They naturally respond.
They need not work for it. The twin souls of the earthly
sphere are Jalal. They have to struggle with themselves,
with their situation in life, with conditions, in order
to develop those qualities which in the end will culminate
in the condition of being twin souls. What is necessary
is an effort, a power, an action. And the third aspect is
Kamal; no action is needed there. One has to be quiet, one
has to be meditative, one has to be silent, one has to close
one's eyes and get in touch with one's self within; and
then one will realize one's twin soul within one's own being.
That is why it is called Kamal, perfection.