Psychology is a science of human nature, human tendencies,
human inclinations and human points of view. And the more
a man touches the depths of this science the more it enlightens
him, making life more clear to his vision. The word psychology
is not used here in the sense in which it is generally understood
today, as a branch of modern medical science. What I mean
by psychology is the point of view of the thinkers, the
way of the wise of looking at life, the manner of the thoughtful,
the ideas of those who know life more fully. There is individual
psychology and psychology of the crowd. Also, it is very
interesting that the more one becomes acquainted with psychology,
the more one begins to see the thoughtless side of the thoughtful
and the foolish side of the wise, the intoxication of the
sober and the weakness of the strong.
An important aspect of psychology is attitude of mind.
The mind takes a certain attitude, and then the whole world
comes under the shadow of this attitude. If one has a fear,
a doubt, or a suspicion, it becomes the attitude of the
mind, and everything that one sees one begins to suspect,
to fear, or to doubt, and as Sadi says, every brain may
have a little of it. One never knows when one changes one's
attitude. Life is an intoxication. Whatever happens to be
a person's attitude, it is according to that attitude that
he looks at life. He may be the most thoughtful, wise, qualified,
and learned man there is, but if he happens to have one
of these attitudes of fear, doubt, or suspicion, the whole
world will become the subject for proving to him the truth
of whatever he has at the back of his mind. This does not
mean that things and people in the world actually become
what he fears. What happens is that first the shadow of
his mind falls on them, and then the action of the shadow
convinces him of the rightness of his doubt, of the truth
of his suspicion, and of the reality of his fear. In other
words, his doubt, his suspicion, or his fear becomes like
a living entity before him.
There is an amusing story of an opium-eater who, half
asleep, half awake, was lying on the grass with his hat
on his knees, thinking, 'Suppose a thief came along, what
would I do?' And no sooner had he thought this than he saw
a thief before him. He looked for a stick, and he struck
the thief hard, whereupon he woke up suddenly and said,
'Well, you gave it to me, but I gave it back to you all
right!' There was no thief. It was his own knee. His knee
with his hat on it appeared for the moment to be a thief
because the thought of a thief was in his mind. He gently,
slowly, raised his stick, and when he struck he never thought
that he would strike himself. In this moment there was fear,
there was a thief, there was a fight and there was a hurt.
And what was it all? He himself.
Such is the life of man. Man takes this opium from life.
He has deep impressions of fear, of doubt, of suspicion,
of prejudice or of distrust; and when these impressions
fall upon others they make him see in these others the same
thing that he is keeping hidden in the depths of his heart.
A young man one day said to his friends, 'You can send
me to any place that is haunted. I can stand it, for I do
not believe in such things.' One friend asked him, 'Do you
think you can stay all night in the graveyard?' He said,
'Yes.' And so all night long he stayed there without any
fear. Nothing appeared, but just before sunrise, when he
got up after waiting all night for the ghost and started
to leave the graveyard, his long cloak was caught by some
thorns on the ground and he felt a pull. That shock made
him faint and he almost died.
When a person thinks, 'Everyone is unfriendly to me.
No one is my friend,' wherever he looks he will see unfriendly
faces. They may be most friendly and lovable and kind people
but he sees them as unfriendly. When a person suspects that
people are working against him, he believes he sees this
in everything they do. If he knows that somebody has been
writing a letter he thinks, 'He is writing something against
me.' If he sees somebody following his own thoughts he thinks,
'He is thinking about me. He is planning against me just
now.' If he finds a man who is asleep he will even think,
'He is dreaming against me!' In the end what happens is
that this thought falls upon the mind of every person that
he sees or thinks about like a shadow, and this shadow turns
that person into itself. And then, if that person happens
to be weak he will do something unconsciously against the
other. He does not do it consciously. The one who had that
thought inspired him to do it and to prove thereby that
he was against him.
It is the same with distrust. When we do not trust someone,
we think that everything that he does is untrustworthy.
It appears like this. And if we were to fight against every
person who shows us the shadow of our own thought, there
would be no end to the fight. We would become excitable
and in the end we would die of that excitement. We would
become mad and all kinds of ill luck would be attracted
by that attitude, or we would become very frightened at
our own fear. This happens in so many cases that we cannot
say that even one person in a hundred is free from it. If
we cured ourselves of this impression, we would change the
outer circumstances of our life even without trying to do
so. Just by changing ourselves we can change the outer circumstances.
We can also change those whom we cannot trust into trustworthy
people. We can change objects and individuals of whom we
are afraid into great friends. Once suspicion had been cleared
from the mind we would have very little chance of suspecting
anyone any more.
This does not mean that it is a great virtue to trust
everybody. To do this would be making oneself responsible
for everyone's purse. It would be taking a great responsibility
upon oneself. The Prophet has said, 'Tie your camel to the
tree, and then trust in God.' But if a person developed
trust so much that he trusted the camel to space and himself
to God, then he would not wish for the camel any more. To
trust or not to trust, these different attitudes follow
our experience. We gradually gather experience from life,
and this experience teaches us whom to trust and whom not
to trust. No doubt there are people who distrust everybody,
but that is a disease, that is not normal.
One need not say that one should fear nothing, though
one may say that fear is a bad thing. There is a story of
a Brahmin, a young man who was very much impressed by what
his guru told him: that the whole of manifestation is the
immanence of God and that, therefore, there is nothing to
fear, nothing to distrust. This thought made the young man
feel quite at home in the world, quite comfortable. Then
one day a mad elephant came along the road on which the
young man was walking. The men running before the elephant
yelled, 'Away, away! The elephant is coming!' But the young
man would not get out of the way. With palms joined he stood
as fearlessly before the elephant as one stands before God,
as his guru had told him. The consequence was that the elephant
gave him a shove and he fell down. He was brought to the
guru who asked him what had happened. The young man said,
'Guruji, you said that all is the immanence of God, and
therefore, in all reverence, I stood before the elephant
with joined hands.' The guru said, 'Did anyone tell you
to get out of the way?' He replied, 'Yes.' 'Why then,' said
the guru, 'did you not stand before that man with joined
hands and listen to him?' Not to be deeply impressed by
distrust does not mean that we should be over-ready to bestow
our trust upon anyone, nor does giving up fear mean that
we can stand in front of a moving motorcar thinking, 'I
trust it will be all right.' Everything has its place in
life, and if we do not let it influence us unduly then everything
is useful.
There is another aspect of psychology which is of very
great importance. It is that often a person thinks, 'I feel
like this. I cannot help it,' or, 'I think like this. I
cannot help it.' But in reality it is not so. One is master
of one's thoughts and master of one's feelings. One cannot
think or feel unless one wants to. And when a person says,
'I cannot help this thought coming to me,' he is the slave
of his thought. Instead of being master of his mind, his
mind is his master, and this is a kind of poverty and helplessness
which is greater than any other in the world. Some even
become so negative that the thought of another person works
in their mind, the thought or the feeling of someone they
know or even of someone they do not know works in their
mind. They can no longer distinguish between their own thoughts
and feelings and those of someone else. But as soon as a
man begins to say, 'I think like this, but I do not know
why,' or, 'I feel like this, but I do not want to feel so,'
then he has gone down one step below the normal state of
mind. A man who is helpless before his own mind is helpless
before everything in the world. And therefore, the great
mastery is to stand before one's own mind and make it think
what one wishes it to think, and make it feel what one wishes
it to feel.
Still another aspect of psychology is an unconscious
suggestion against one's own wishes. This happens, for instance,
when a person says, 'I see it, my attitude is quite wrong.'
But it is his attitude, it is in his own hands, and yet
he watches and only says, 'My attitude is wrong!' If he
knows that his attitude is wrong why can he not make it
right? It only means that he suggests to himself that his
attitude is wrong. Or a person says, 'I would like so much
to have a friendly feeling towards you, but I feel like
hitting you, I cannot help it.' This means that he has suggested
to himself that he must hit the other, and yet he is helpless
before his own idea. When someone says that he wishes that
he could be your friend, but that he is sorry that he happens
to be your enemy, this is the greatest helplessness that
one could ever have. It is as if he did not exist, as if
he were worse than a log of wood, for the log of wood would
not re-echo. The one who accepts a suggestion which goes
against himself and his own wishes is poisoning himself
and working against his own happiness.
However much knowledge of science or art or philosophy
a man has, if he does not consider these simple aspects
of psychology he will allow his mind to develop many illnesses
which cannot be cured by external remedies. Our attitude
with regard to illness should be that one is resigned to
the illness of the past, but one must try and avoid the
illness of the future. And if a person is anticipating that
something good will come his way, he must say to himself
that the time is coming closer and closer every day. But
if it is something he does not want, he must say that the
time will never come.
The mind can be trained by regarding it as a separate
entity, watching it and teaching it. There is the ego and
there is the mind. The ego is our self and the mind is before
us. We should look at the mind and think, I am the ego,
my mind is before me,' and then analyze it, imagine it to
be an entity, speak with it, and the answer will come. Even
animals are trained; can man not train himself? When one
cannot train oneself this only means that one does not want
to train oneself. It is laziness, lethargy. One does not
want to take the trouble. For instance, very often people,
when asked to read a poem, will say, 'Yes. I shall be glad
to read it presently.' They do not want to exert their brain,
and they may arrive at a state where they do not even want
to take trouble for themselves. First they do not want to
take trouble for another, and then their laziness increases
and they do not want to take trouble for themselves. It
begins with selfishness. They do not want to think about
another, and then it ends by a person not wanting to think
about himself. Then what is he thinking about? Nothing.
One should say to the mind, 'Look here, you are my mind,
you are my instrument. You are my slave and servant. You
are here to help me, to work for me in this world. You have
to listen to me. You will do whatever I wish. You will think
whatever I wish. You will feel whatever I wish. You will
not think or feel differently from my wishes, for you are
my mind and you must prove in the end to be mine.' By doing
this we begin to analyze our mind. We begin to see where
it is wrong and where it is right. What is wrong in it and
what is right in it; whether it is clouded, whether it is
rusted, whether it has become too cool or whether it has
become over-heated. We can train it ourselves, in accordance
with its condition, and it is we who are the best trainers
of our mind, better than anybody else in the world.
checked 03-Sep-2006