To an angelic soul love means glorification
To a jinn soul love means admiration
To a human soul love means affection
To an animal soul love means passion.
One need not fall in love, one must rise through love.
Pour out floods of love, yet keeping your garment of
detachment from being wet.
Question: Can love exceed wisdom or can wisdom
exceed love? What happens in either case? Is love measured
according to love, or is wisdom measured according to love?
Answer: It is true that wise is loving and loving
is truly wise, although in one person wisdom may be predominant
and in another love. But both love and wisdom are needed.
The cold-hearted man is never wise, and the really warm-hearted
person is never foolish. Yet both these qualities, love
and wisdom, are distinct and separate, and it is possible
that a person may be loving but lacking wisdom, and it happens
that a person who is wise may be lacking love to some extent.
But no one can be wise if love is absent from his heart
– call him clever. And no one will be truly loving if wisdom
has not illuminated his heart, for love comes from wisdom
and wisdom comes from love.
It is very difficult to say what love is and how one
can love. Is it embracing people and running after them
and saying sweet words to them? What could one show when
one is loving? – for every person has a different way of
expressing his love. One person perhaps has love hidden
in his heart which does not manifest, and another person's
love comes out in his words and actions. The love of one
person rises like vapor and charges the whole atmosphere,
and another person's love is like a spark hidden in a stone:
outside the stone is cold, inside there is a spark.
Therefore to judge who has love and who has not is not
in the power of every person, it is a very difficult thing.
For instance love is a fire rising from a cracker calling
out, 'I am love!', but it burns out and is finished. There
is also fire in the pebble which never manifests. If you
hold the pebble it feels cold, yet at the same time the
fire is there. Some day you can strike it and it is there,
it is dependable, it lasts. As many people as there are,
so many are the different qualities of their love, and one
Question: Is jealousy inseparable from human love?
Answer: It is like asking, 'Is the shadow separable
from the body?' Where there is form there is shadow; where
there is human love there is jealousy.
Love can bring out what is worst and best in man.
Love can take many forms, even that of indifference.
I remember I went once for a relative to the house of a
physician, an Indian physician who had a very ancient method
of writing his prescriptions. Each took him nearly ten minutes.
I was shown into a small room where fifteen to twenty people
were already waiting, and I sat down among them. He continued
to write prescriptions for all who came, and when he had
finished with those who were before me he began to write
prescriptions for those who had come after me. I had thought
that the physician, as a friend of the family, would have
seen me first, but he went on until he had seen everyone,
and I was the last.
Finally he said to me, 'Now tell me what you have to
say'. I told him, and he wrote out the prescription without
any haste, and when I was leaving he said, 'I hope you understand
that I did not want to see you while all the other patients
were still there. I wanted to see you at leisure'. He was
doing me a favor, and though he tried my patience it was
still a majestic sort of favor. It gave me a good example
of love in the form of indifference. With indifference one
still must have sympathy and love – be more and more sensitive
as one evolves.
The Story of Hatim
The life of Hatim is written by the Persians and many
stories are told about him. One of these stories is best
known by the people in the East. It tells that a princess
who was much renowned for her beauty and greatness had made
as a condition for those who loved her and desired her hand
that only the one who brought her a certain pearl which
she longed to possess would marry her. There was one lover
of the princess who really loved her, but did not find the
way to obtain that pearl from anywhere.
The work of Hatim was to roam about from country to country
and to do what he could for those who needed his services.
He met this lover who, roaming about, was most unhappy because
he could not find the pearl. Hatim consoled him and said,
'Continue in your path of love, even if it be difficult,
and remember that I shall not rest until I have brought
relief to your heart by bringing you the pearl you are longing
for'. Hatim then went in pursuit of the pearl and the story
tells what difficulties he had in obtaining it. When at
last he got it he brought it to the palace, and the princess
was won by that pearl. When she consented to accept Hatim
as her lover, he then said that this promise should be granted
to his friend, who was really her lover, while Hatim was
the lover of those who were in need.
In this story the princess is God, and the pearl that
she wanted is the knowledge of God. There was a lover of
God, but he would not go and take the trouble one has to
take to obtain this knowledge. Someone else was ready; his
work was to take this trouble to go to the depth – even
if it was not for himself but for another – to get the knowledge
and to give it to the one who had the love to have it.
This story also explains to us that there are two stages
of workers. The first stage is that of the one who works
for himself; the higher stage of working is to work for
others. The one who rises above the stage of working for
himself comes to the stage of working for others, bringing
in their lives the blessing which is the need of their lives.
To what does the love of God lead? It leads to that peace
and stillness which can be seen in the life of the tree
which flowers and bears fruit for others and expects no
Peace will not come to the lover's heart so long as he
will not become love itself.
Question: Why is it that with the growing of love
difficulties arise from all sides? Is it not said by the
ancients that God is a jealous God?
Answer: This is but a saying; God can never be
jealous of His own manifestation. Only before love began
one was unconsciously linked with the source alone, but
once love has awakened on the physical plane, one is attached
to someone on earth. It is like Adam and Eve being exiled
from the garden of Eden. This naturally causes every influence
to work against that love. Even the throne of God is shaken
by love's outburst, because by a sincere link on earth which
is power itself every other influence is automatically pulled
and pushed, causing thereby a commotion in the world of
The soul of man is happiness; yet man is never happy
since he is occupied with this world of woes. It is only
love that can bring about that happiness of which is spoken
in legends, which is beyond all pleasures of this mortal
world. Those who consciously or unconsciously see or feel
that happiness experienced by the lover and the beloved,
naturally either knowingly or unknowingly react against
Spiritual love is nectar, but as soon as it is mixed
with matter, it becomes a sweet wine mixed with a bitter
If we give ourselves up to the absorbing love of any
being, any thing, God becomes jealous and He takes that
being from us. Therefore Abraham was called upon to sacrifice
his son. This lesson was given: God does not allow another
affection to be dearer than His love. If we love our children
because they are ours and other children are neglected,
God says to us, 'These are the beings whom We have given
you to love, to take care of them for Us, not to cherish
them for yourselves'. He takes from us whatever we love
most forgetting Him, in order to show us that He is the
Lord of the Jalal, Jamal and Kamal. The love of all beings
lasts for a season, but it is His love that is always with
us, in all forms and beings.
No creature that has ever been born has belonged in reality
to any other. Every soul is the beloved of God. Does not
God love as we human beings cannot?3
The Maharajah of Jaipur, Ram Singh, was a great lover
of music. At his court were marvelous singers and dancers,
they were like the Apsaras and Ghandarvas.
From all India beautiful singers and dancers were called
there; all the great musicians of India were there, also
my grandfather Maula Bakhsh. The Maharajah did not know
the secret of holding his wish. If he had known it he might
have kept his happiness much longer. But he did not know
it, and when everything was perfect he died.
That is why in the East there is a superstition that,
if any thing or being belonging to us is much praised or
admired, that thing or that person will soon be lost to
us. Therefore if someone says, 'Your child is very pretty',
the parents will say, 'No, he is not pretty, he is a plain
child'. And if the child is fair they make a black mark
upon its face, so that it would not be perfectly fair.
Life provides you with a substitute for all you have
Love is the fire that burns all infirmities.
Question: How do we see the love of God in the
book of nature? We see all around us fruits and plants and
animal life brought to fruition and then to destruction,
and among men cruelty, misery, tragedies and enmities everywhere.
Answer: It is a difference of focus. If we focus
our mind upon all that is good and beautiful we shall see
– in spite of all the ugliness that exists in nature and
especially more pronounced in human nature – that the ugliness
will cover itself. We will spread a cover over it and see
all that is beautiful, and to whatever lacks beauty we will
be able to add, taking it from all that is beautiful in
our heart where beauty has sufficiently been collected.
But if we focus our mind upon all the ugliness that exists
in nature – and in human nature – there will be much of
it. It will take up all our attention and there will come
a time when we shall not be able to see any good anywhere.
We shall see all cruelty, ugliness, wickedness and unkindness
Question: In focusing our mind on beauty alone,
is there not a danger of shutting our eyes to the ugliness
and suffering we might alleviate?
Answer: In order to help the poor we ought to
be rich, and in order to take away the badness of a person
we ought to be so much more good. That goodness must be
earned, as money is earned. That earning of goodness is
collecting goodness wherever we find it, and if we do not
focus on goodness we will not be able to collect it sufficiently.
What happens is that man becomes agitated by all the absence
of goodness he sees. Being himself poor he cannot add to
it, and unconsciously he develops in his own nature what
he sees. He thinks, 'Oh poor person! I should so much like
you to be good', but that does not help that person. His
looking at the badness, his agitation, only adds one more
wicked person to the lot. When one has focused one's eyes
on goodness one will add to beauty, but when a man's eyes
are focused on what is bad he will collect enough wickedness
for him to be added himself to the number of the wicked
in the end, for he receives the same impression.
Besides, by criticizing, by judging, by looking at wickedness
with contempt, one does not help the wicked or the stupid
person. The one who helps is he who is ready to overlook,
who is ready to forgive, to tolerate, to take disadvantages
he may have to meet with patiently. It is he who can help.
A person who is able to help others should not hide himself
but do his best to come out into the world. 'Raise up your
light high', it is said. All that is in you should be brought
out, and if the conditions hinder you, break through the
conditions! That is the strength of life.
You are love – you come from love – you are made by love
– you cannot cease to love.
Question: Is it a great lack in character when
a person cannot give the love which friends require? When
one receives love and is not able to return it, when one
forgets one's friends being absorbed in one's work and occupation?
Answer: The question is: what work or occupation?
There are works and occupations of a higher character which
take one's whole attention, one's life. Such works may require
renunciation and sacrifice. Then one does not become loveless;
there is a duty of which one cannot be regardless. However
if one can manage to give and take love at the same time,
it is preferable.
Question: Will a person suffer one day through
inability to love – merely giving a cold affection?
Answer: Love, whether hot or cold, is love.
Question: Is there cold love?
Answer: Since God is love the whole manifestation
is love, the cold water and the hot fire.
Question: By which power does man attract his
food and all he needs?
Answer: If there is any mighty power, it is the
power of love. All that one desires comes from love. Even
if one desires food, it is the love of food, and it is according
to the power of his love that man will attract it. The question
is only: what does he love most? Does he love something
more than the ordinary things of life, then that must be
Hunger is an aspect of love. Love of the heart is what
we call affection. Love of territory has caused many deaths.
What man loves he must get. All words as seeking, wanting,
requiring, searching, are words for loving. Love is the
root of the whole phenomenon of life. Even if a poor man
does not find his food, you will see that there is something
else he loves more.
God is love and in Him I have my being – and I have no
Let my intelligence shine out as love; let my limited
self expand to Thy divine perfection.