MARRIAGE IS the most sacred of all things. It is certainly
not in the first place a contract, a business. When we look
at marriage from a higher point of view it appears that
marriage is the fulfillment of life.
From a physical point of view this life which is full
of struggle and strife can be met with greater strength
and greater courage and greater capability when two harmonious
forces are united together. There is a saying of a Persian
poet, 'When two hearts unite, they become powerful enough
to remove mountains'. Life is a continual struggle, and
in order to become capable of meeting this struggle it is
necessary to be strong and powerful. When two hearts are
united they are more capable, more powerful and greatly
Looking at marriage from a mental point of view, no matter
how wise, how strong, how courageous, how powerful a person
may be, he still lacks something. Every individual, after
all, has defects. No matter how many merits he has, he needs
something better: at the time of doubt, conviction; at the
time of anxiety, support from another source; at the time
of confusion, a little light; at the time of sorrow, a word
of consolation, of happiness. No matter what a person has
– wealth, power, rank, position – this will not balance
his life. If there is anything that will balance his life
it is another soul to provide that which is missing at the
moment when he needs it. Therefore from a physical point
of view marriage is a power, and from a mental point of
view it brings balance.
Lastly there is the spiritual point of view. Among the
ancient people the wise gave an answer to the ever-recurring
question as to why the world was created. This answer was
that God felt lonely. And no matter how many rays of the
light of wisdom we may throw upon life, we shall always
receive this one answer as the reason for the creation.
If anything exists it is only one Being, and that is God.
Therefore the whole of manifestation which is created by
Him is in Himself. If God created it, it was only because
He felt lonely. It is the same idea that can be seen symbolically
in the belief of the ancient people that Eve was created
out of the rib of Adam. It only means that this world was
created out of God himself, that it is God's own manifestation.
He wanted to see in order to remove the monotony of being
alone and, if it was the need of God to create something
and put it before Himself to remove the monotony of being
alone, it is natural that every human being has this inclination
too. But this inclination leads to what? To greater perfection
– because an individual man is limited, no matter how powerful,
how great, how wise and learned he may be, and in order
to become greater he must become another person.
Marriage is the first step to becoming another person.
The one who formerly thought that he would attain pleasure,
comfort, happiness in life and enjoy it for himself, from
the moment he is married thinks first of his wife and of
how he can give her comfort, for without her he can no longer
When this outlook comes to a person his consciousness
changes; it rises and expands and becomes the source of
all revelation and bliss. Why is it so? Because by this
expansion the spirit of God becomes awakened in man. It
removes what stands between his limited and his unlimited
self and gradually raises him to a stage where he fully
realizes the one who is the source and goal, who is the
essence of his being. As Rumi says, 'Whether you have loved
man or whether you have loved God, if you have loved enough
you will be brought in the end into the presence of the
supreme Love itself'.
From a spiritual point of view therefore marriage is
a step forward on the path to perfection, that path by which
the ultimate purpose of life is attained.